The subways and trains that once symbolized the pulse of major cities have devolved into breeding grounds for unpredictability. You can stand in a crowded car and still feel completely alone — and worse, completely unprotected. Women, especially, are being targeted more often, more brazenly, and in ways that make you question whether humanity’s collective moral compass snapped in half somewhere along the line.

I’m not interested in offering false hope or pretending that the world is still the safe, civilized place that people like to imagine. It isn’t. The headlines are everywhere — women assaulted while commuting to work, stalked between train cars, attacked on platforms, shoved onto tracks, harassed in empty cars, or cornered by violent offenders who know exactly how slow response times can be underground. The predators know the environment favors them. They thrive in the chaos.

If you’re a woman riding the subway today, you’re not paranoid. You’re paying attention. And in times like these, paying attention is the only thing keeping you alive.

Below is not a “feel good” guide. This is not a cheerful pamphlet you’d get at a transit kiosk. This is a reality check — written from the mindset of someone who assumes the worst because the worst keeps happening. If you ride subways or trains, you deserve to know what you’re up against and how to stack the odds in your favor.

Because the system isn’t going to protect you. Society certainly isn’t. You have to do it yourself.

The Ugly Truth About Modern Transit Violence

Let’s get something straight: attacks on women in public transit aren’t “random anomalies.” The system is full of cracks, and predators slip through them like water through rusted pipes. Look around any subway system and you’ll see:

• Platforms with minimal visibility
• Cars with no staff presence
• Delayed police response times
• Broken cameras or cameras that “aren’t monitored live”
• Overcrowded tunnels paired with understaffed stations
• Social decline, untreated mental illness, and growing desperation
• Strangers who behave erratically but face no intervention
• Bystanders glued to their phones, oblivious or frozen

This perfect storm creates an environment where violent individuals can target women with startling ease. And it’s getting worse, not better. Cities keep promising safety. Transit authorities keep posting cheery posters with “See Something, Say Something,” as if words on paper can physically stop a deranged attacker from lunging at you.

Down in those tunnels, you’re on your own. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Mindset: The Most Important Tool You Have

Forget the fantasy that “being nice” or “not making a scene” keeps you safe. Predators count on that kind of thinking. What women need today is situational awareness, controlled suspicion, and a survival mindset.

This doesn’t mean walking around terrified. It means walking around prepared.

Adopt These Mental Rules Immediately:

1. Assume anyone can be a threat until proven otherwise.
   It’s not pessimism. It’s self-preservation.
2. Never ignore your instincts.
   If someone makes you uncomfortable, listen to that discomfort as if it’s a warning siren.
3. Don’t be polite at the expense of your own safety.
   Move seats. Move cars. Stand up. Speak up. Leave.
4. Know where the exits and emergency intercoms are — always.
   Do not board a train without identifying your escape route.
5. Keep your senses open.
   Headphones may as well be blindfolds underground. You can’t detect danger if you can’t hear it.

Before You Even Step on the Train

Your safety starts before your foot touches the platform.

1. Stay in well-lit, populated areas

Avoid standing at the far ends of the platform. Predators prefer isolation, and so should you — if you want to avoid them.

2. Let someone know your travel route

Not because you’re weak — because you’re practical. Create a breadcrumb trail in case something goes wrong.

3. Have your essentials ready

• Keys accessible
• Phone charged
• Emergency numbers pre-set
• Personal safety tool ready but discreet

Do not dig through your bag when seconds matter.

4. Scan everyone around you

Not in fear — in analysis. Who’s agitated? Who’s pacing? Who’s staring? Who’s intoxicated? Your brain is more powerful than you think at identifying danger if you let it.

Choosing the Safest Car (Yes, There Is Such a Thing)

You can’t guarantee safety, but you can make smarter tactical choices.

Best options:

• Cars with more people, not fewer
• Cars that are near the conductor
• Cars with working cameras
• Cars where you have a clear view of the exit doors

Worst options:

• Nearly empty cars
• Cars with a hostile or unbalanced individual already inside
• Train ends or between-car areas
• Cars where the only available seat is boxed into a corner with no escape route

If a car “feels wrong,” trust that thought. Move. You owe no one an explanation.

What to Do Once You’re Inside the Car

Once inside, your goal is simple: reduce exposure, increase awareness, and maintain control over your space.

1. Sit near the exit doors

This gives you mobility. If trouble sparks, you can get out before being trapped.

2. Keep your back toward a wall or pole

You want to minimize blind spots. Sitting with your back exposed in a crowded car is practically an invitation for trouble.

3. Keep your phone visible but your attention outward

Pretending to be distracted is never worth the risk.

4. Keep a safety tool ready

Something legal, discreet, and practical — but only used if your life is truly in danger. The goal is escape, not confrontation.

5. Watch for behavioral red flags

• Someone moving too close
• Unwanted staring
• Aggressive mumbling
• Someone shadowing your movements
• Someone blocking your exit path

These are not “maybe it’s nothing” situations. These are “keep every alarm bell ringing” moments.

If You Sense You’re Being Targeted

This is the part no one wants to think about, but ignoring it won’t make it go away.

1. Move immediately

Switch seats. Switch cars. Step off the train.
Action beats hesitation.

2. Make yourself less isolated

Stand near others, even if they’re strangers. Predators want privacy. Don’t give it to them.

3. Use your voice if needed

A loud, commanding “BACK UP” or “STOP” can disrupt an attacker’s plan and draw witnesses.

4. Hit the emergency intercom

That’s what it’s there for. Use it. Don’t wait for “proof.”

5. Exit the moment the doors open

If something feels off, leave. Even if it’s not your stop. Survival beats convenience every time.

If a Situation Escalates

Let’s hope it never reaches this point, but if it does, prioritize escape over fighting. Fighting is a last resort — not because you’re incapable, but because the environment is unpredictable and confined.

If physically attacked, your goal is:

• Create distance
• Break the attacker’s grasp
• Move toward the nearest exit
• Get off the train or into the next car

Call for help loudly and directly. “YOU — IN THE BLUE JACKET — CALL 911!” works better than vague shouting.

After You Get to Safety

If you experience or witness an attack:

• Report it as soon as possible
• Mention every detail you remember
• Get medical attention if needed
• Contact someone you trust

Even if law enforcement is slow, reporting helps build a pattern and can protect future victims.

Final Thoughts From a Cynical Realist

We can’t pretend anymore. Public transit has become a battlefield disguised as a commute. Women are being targeted because predators know they can get away with it. So don’t wait for society to wake up or for the system to fix itself — it won’t. Your safety is your responsibility, and your awareness is your strongest weapon.

The world may be spiraling, but you don’t have to spiral with it. Prepare. Stay alert. Trust your instincts. And remember: hope is not a strategy.

Survival is.